Reba,  I read your response to my post, and I had a thought.....

then I read Sand's response, and he said what I was thinking....

There is a book called "The Five Languages of Love", written by Gary Chapman.  I believe it is written with a Christian perspective. However, I think anyone could benefit from reading it.  I think you - and your marriage - would benefit from reading it.  If you could borrow a copy, or buy your own copy, I think you could benefit.

The sentence that caught my attention was:  "Meaning I feel most loved...."  That is the essence of this book.   Maybe right now you need to also learn what your husband's love language is..... and he needs to learn and understand what your love language is.  I think this book could help you with that. 

Maybe I am all wet, but those are my thoughts today.....