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C IL | I think perhaps you are quality time people, and the time you are getting isn’t quality. Which happens in a busy season, but perhaps your spouse could learn to be more intentional.
If you haven’t read the 5 love languages, I can recommend it. I’m analytical and performance-based and my version of quality time is ‘come help me accomplish this task so it’s off my list’. That’s not really quality time, that’s someone doing me an act of service. Which is what I most desire.
When I finally figured out what my wife needed was my full attention and she could otherwise take out the trash or unload the dishwasher if I was busy, that helped. She would rather I spend the 5 minutes talking with her about her day than spend it doing something for her. Then I finally knew how to allocate my sometimes-limited time to optimize the outcomes for her, if that isn’t too clinical.
Edited by sand85 3/11/2019 13:50
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am I cut out for this?
