Puckerville Dead center N.Y. | I hope that in time you both can get on the same page as to how time will be divided and the life you will lead. Unfortunately I see the rose colored glasses syndrome here. Life is not always as planned or as promised. When you have livestock to care for you do just that. If you don't they will die. That's a simple fact. The same can be said of children and relationships. If not cared for they will perish.
Now for the hard part, your husband has made this commitment to all of the above. Unfortunately it seems (this might not be right) that you want to live in fairytale land and have his father do the bulk of the work while you as the princess can have him take care of the kids and be at your beckon call to take care of what you deem important at that point and time. Again fairytale land. You as an adult and a mom need to be just that and help your husband reach his potential as a dad and father along with someday being a partner in this ranch. The ranch thing may be a problem if his family sees all the carrying on about him not being home ECT. I doubt his parents ( dad and of course mom) will be willing to give away their lifelong sacrifice and dedication to their son only to have it taken away due to some unrealistic expectations of a young wife that had no idea what this lifestyle was about.
I do not mean to come off harsh as I'm sure I did, but you need to do some soul searching on your own and see if you are willing to be a partner in the sacrifice that is a farm with livestock. It is not just a job. There are no weekends off. You can and should push for a vacation AWAY from the ranch, but you also have to be willing to be all in or it will never work. Accept and embrace the lifestyle. It is the best place in the world to raise children. It can be that romantic vision that many people perceive it to be. It will never be that if you do not let it be.
Disregard this whole post if your husband is spending time with his friends or at some coffee shop. If that's the case that is a true problem. |
am I cut out for this?
