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Central Illinois | blondebeck, I can see myself in what your husband is currently. I am now 53 and both our kids are 27 & 25. I did a lot with our kids, but when in the "season" (calving, planting, haying, spraying, haying, haying, harvesting, preparing for next year) I was not spending enough time with my family. My wife calls it the "farmers widow" season. When she first said it that way I reacted with an attitude. Then I realized I was missing out on the family. There is nothing like those early years of your children asking questions or just that hug from your little 1's. You will not get those opportunities when they grow up. I am thankful I changed I how I farmed to make things more efficient and easier on myself. Those changes allowed more time and energy to spend time with my family. It's easier to say "I have work to do " than it is to change how you work and make extra time for your family but, it is my responsibility as a husband and father. What worked for me may or may not work for your husband. He has to evaluate and make the changes necessary.
A neighbor said "That work was there when your grandpa started farming and that work will be there when you are dead and gone." | |
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am I cut out for this?
