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Aberdeen MS | ....explained to her that there would be no more lies (a conversation we have had multiple times) and that the new man was not a replacement Dad and asked her to make sure he understood it.........
First mistake is "telling her" no more lies. She is no longer under your "control". Sounds a bit like you are still attempting to control the situation by your reference to multiple conversations. That automatically puts her on the defensive. And she will dig her feet in.
"He" is not the person that has to understand about being a replacement Dad. Your children are the ones that need that reinforcement. If he is a good man, he already knows he isn't one. He is although an "additional" dad, and there is nothing you can do to avoid that.
Don't get discouraged by the legal process. The courts view a divorce as nothing more than an exit of an agreement. The attorneys have the same view point, with a bit more compassion (not much though). Most judges are only concerned about the well being of the kids. Along with what the process you and her decide to follow in relation to the kids.
The one thing you do need to do, is never, never, never speak ill of your ex around the kids or someone that will tell the kids you spoke ill of her. She is their mother and they have the same feelings toward her as you hope they have of you.
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