Chimel makes good points. However I would suggest you forget the batteries. Batteries are inefficient, expensive and need cycling/maintenance, require a large inverter etc. If you want backup for power grid outages buy a small generator and have the electrician wire in a transfer switch and plug receptacle for the generator.

Try to have a south facing, preferably steel roof (standing seam type is best as you can mount solar racking clamping to the raised seams and have no holes through the roof) at about the same angle as your latitude, about 40 degrees.   16 panels at 40 degrees facing south is a nice ~ 4.4kw (16x275 watt/ Solarworld panel) roof top/grid tie system. Works with one loop of Enphase 250 microinverters.

For heating and air conditioning go geothermal if you can. In floor heat on both basement and main floor (main floor use gypcrete under tile and/or engineered wood.  Ceiling, not floor, air conditioning outlets. Air to air heat exchangers are a must on tight newer houses. Use the geothermal system to preheat your domestic hot water. Use a super insulated domestic hot water heater.

Use tile or wood floors with area rugs rather than install carpeting.

Make stairways 4 ft wide.

Use LED bulbs in all lighting fixtures so you don't need to change later. 

Use a masonry heater in place of a fireplace if you want to burn some wood.

Insulate the outside, not the inside of the foundation. Adds thermal mass at interior temperature. Evens out heating and cooling loads

If you are going to use stone counter tops use soap stone rather than granite. Soap stone doesn't absorb oils or anything. Does not need oiling. Consider using an energy efficient induction stove in the kitchen.

Use good windows! You can have the best insulated house in the world and then lose it all through the windows. Not all windows need to open. Good fixed windows with single large panes of good thermal glass on the south side with an appropriate overhang are less expensive and less trouble than std windows and reduce heat load in the winter.  Overhang shades them in the summer.

Have windows on east/west walls to open....few to no windows on the north side...

Some more ideas for your consideration.

Good luck!