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Alton, Ia | October to May, not a long time to know someone. But I started dating my wife in late September, was ready by Feb to ask her, and we celebrated our 20th last winter, so what do I know? :)
If you go forward, and receive any kind of pre-marital counseling, you'll get told that a successful marriage requires both people to give 110%, not 50/50. And it's true. So sit down and ask her what she thinks is fair, and hopefully, she will insist on contributing her fair share, or more. Yes, you already have the house and will have many of those bills regardless, but she will be saving lot's of money also. Obviously, you and/or her are not ready for the big YES, or else you'd be doing that, so there is the chance in your mind this won't last. If you contribute 100% and her nothing, when she moves on, she used you. Maybe not intentionally or maliciously, but she did.
Maybe come up with a loose plan of the chores, and the bills, and put both of your savings into an account. If you get married, honeymoon or house remodel fund, if you split, divide it 50/50 and go forward. There's way too many personal issues here for any of us to give you totally expert advice, but I think most would encourage fairness and honesty in this endeavor.
OTOH, remember, if you make her an equal partner, be ready to fussy up the bathroom!
And also, what cattle require a lot of hot water? Dairy?
Edited by Oliver1 5/19/2017 08:21
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Question for those who live with a girlfriend
