Posted 1/11/2019 15:28 (#7237893 - in reply to #7237570) Subject: RE: When did you decide to pass the farm down?
I'm not too far away from you, most likely and your Grandpa is VERY much like mine was. I'm willing to bet a lot of money on it, that he will never change his mind. He either doesn't think you are cut out to be a farmer, he doesn't think you will do a good job or, and this has happened before many times in this area and with this stubborn German/Russian heritage, he's afraid that you will do a MUCH better job than he was ever able to do. He may just view you as a hire hand and that's it. If you have a full time job, he perhaps thinks that you aren't able to do both. I'm sure you've thought of these thoughts as well.
I would probably push the questions and want some answers from her folks and from her Grandpa. Heck, even talk some numbers. Find out the REAL reason they don't want to sell any part of it, even just the main yard/corrals. It wouldn't be good to sink a bunch of time and money into something you won't ever be able to buy. The longer it takes to find out "WHY", you both are kinda just getting strung along.
Hope you can get some answers, cuz it sucks not knowing what to do.
SGF49 - 1/11/2019 12:45
In the situation my wife and I are in is pretty frustrating and much of the same story.
We live on my wife’s grandparents farm. We pay $500 a month in rent. They pay electric and buy the coal/propane. I will help grandpa with his projects around the farm and we can deduct $15/hr from rent.
The farm is not being used. Grandpa rents the land out. My wife has two horses. My wife and I would like to raise sheep but grandpa will not agree to it.
My wife’s parents live in town along with the grandparents. Aunts and one Uncle live farther away. Whenever we bring up ideas about purchasing the farm grandpa gets upset and says it is up to the kids.
The farm is in a living trust so technically grandpa could sell to us.
I told my wife that we should give the family three years to figure it out thenn move out if not. I highly doubt she would. Heck she told me she wants to die in that 101 year old house. Who says that!?!