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The Delta | Tell us the situation. Begging pleading or trying to convince her with words will push her farther. Take a few weeks and dont speak to her, gather your thoughts, and determine what went wrong, if it can be fixed, and if it is worth it. There are 2 parts to women, they are like cats, they come to you when they need attention. The next part to women is they are naturally attracted to an "alphamale" per say. Buy a gym membership it will help with the stress, go out with friends, do new things. At the moment she enjoys or expects the behavior you showed in your post. When you can act happier without her, she will question her decision. It won't be quick, she will probably date someone new and go through the rebound relationship thing, you need to do the same, for every good one, there is a better one.
Commitment? Dating is screwed up now days, sex on the first date is common, people settle way to easily, find themselves unhappy and begin to look for new options, causing infidelity and compounding their problems. Very are actually truly happy. This is why it's a Rollercoaster of sorts, I don't intend to marry anytime soon, I see too many fall suckered to the game of it.
The real reason it didn't work, and most people don't either is they quit doing the things it took to get her in the first place. Yes, it's very much a two way street. When things get too comfortable and you no longer have that dating spark, it's time to run. Or fix if your so inclined.
To paraphrase all of that. Save yourself first. Then find her. If it's meant to be it will work out. She will feel everything you currently do, once the new wears off. You have to change the idea of you, to her. Basically regaining power and respect in the relationship. Anything can be done.
If you get through all of that and she agrees to see you and set a date, do not bring up the past, or even getting back together. Most men push them away by rushing back, commitment should always be the woman's idea, they will bring it up when they are ready. Like the cat analogy, too much attention and they leave. Be a mystery. No drunk texts, don't tell her your plans, and don't be too accessible for her.
Edited by Justin ArkMo 9/27/2016 16:21
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Heart Broken
