Cambridge, southwestern Nebraska | Probably just need to have a frank discussion that you need to know what he is thinking. Tell him it does not matter to you one way or another what he chooses to do so that he doesn't feel pressured or guilted into coming back to the farm. You could also make a decision that would allow to have a door open for him in the future if he chooses to come back to the farm at a later time such as renting out the farm now instead of selling it.
I guess we were able to to bring up quite a bit of this when my wife and I sat down with our kids to discuss estate planning. That kind of got everyone thinking about longer term options and ramifications of what decisions made today could influence options in the future.
When the kids were growing up we were pretty clear we told our kids they could do what ever they wanted to do. If they wanted to farm they had to WANT to do it not that they felt they HAD to do it. It's not a profession to be in if you really don't want to be there. |
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