kscropguy - 5/1/2014 09:36

I am sorry to hear that. If looking toward the future is your goal your dad and aunt and uncle need to have a sit down talk away from the farm or their homes. Nobody gets home field advantage that way. The discussion needs to be had about the future of the farm and each other's ideas for such plans. I hate to tell you this but if you aren't a partner in the ground or the equipment you don't have a say unless you are asked(I have been in this situation). Try to hash out plans for a transition that is amicable to each party understanding that compromise is part of the deal. Finally, write up contracts with a lawyer to cover the bases in the agreement.

As for your dad and your siblings. Your dad should be in charge. You need him to tell you and your siblings his desires and then make sure it's written on paper by a lawyer with provision for someone to be a third party administrator in case family problems occur.

My sons will be told what I want, they will be treated fairly by my standards, and finally if they fight over (what little there is) there probably will be a nuclear clause added that would be pretty devastating to them if I can figure out a way to make it stick.