We had a granddaughter born premature the day after mothers day this year and came home from the hospital the day after fathers day.  We lost her on July 7th to SIDS.  She was tiny, her name Liliana Jade and we called her Little Lily Bug.  My wife recently attended a grief discussion group and a friend of hers who had also lost a dughter shared this poem with her.

http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/god-it-hurts/

How unfortunate that so many share this in common with God.