I was one of the ones suggesting screwing up the laundry earlier.  Been there, done that (by accident of course), she took back over for a while, but I'm back to helping with most of it when she's busy and I'm home more.  Same kind of deal here- she's doing her masters full-time and working too, so we both have turns going nuts with work.  The difference is when she's home, she still has schoolwork and take-home stuff from her job.  I have a bit of paperwork/planning for work, but it's mostly do-whatever-needs-doing time.