I know of someone who was in an abusive relationship for years. She finally got a divorce after too many years of trying to change things.  At this point it seems like the kids would have been better off if she had faced the facts sooner, much sooner, put a line in the sand and when that line was crossed once again, left.

Now happily remarried but the kids paid the price.  Depends on the situation details but the kids are always better off with the truth. Children are smarter, more observant and more deeply scarred than many folks realize. Only post this here in hopes it may help someone not make the same mistake.

Jim at Dawn