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Pierce county WI | So Friday night, my parents asked if we'd like to come over with kids. My sister lives with them. We are the only kids my parents had. When we were kids, we didn't get along. She wasn't expected to do anything, and they pushed a lot on me, which was ok, I liked the farm and having responsibility. If they asked anything of my sister she would pout, and become anti social. So I felt like they were on eggshells with her all through her teenage years. When she was 15, she was in a bad car accident, so they always let her have slack on anything she did that was stupid. She's not affected mentally, she has 2 degrees. She has a back that she can't lift over over like 20 or 30 lbs or something. She was married, then divorced, then abandoned the whole family for about 5 years. She would talk to my parents when she wanted money. She missed my wedding, which was fine with me, but hurt my Mom. Missed my daughter being born. At that point, I really lost any respect for her. Then she suddenly moved back home 5 years ago, after getting out of an abusive relationship. My parents welcomed her back with completely open arms. As a Dad, I understand. For me though, it irritates me terrible. She treats mom and Dad's like it's her place. She tries to tell my kids what to do. She will tell the kids things like shut the door, you are letting the heat out, ECT. She's not paying the heat, and it's my mom's kitchen their standing in the doorway! She's a self described socialist, who thinks communism is a good idea. She's an atheist, and is the smartest person in the room, just ask her......... I made the mistake of arguing politics with her, and I said the only reason you want socialism is because you are just lazy. I know that is 100% true. Most of the socialist, well educated people are like that. She thinks it should be a collective, because their contribution is not by hard work, but they are the smart ones that can think for the simple people........ Anyway, I called her out, and she cried and drove off, and my parents were upset. It's just like how it was growing up. Don't upset her. Meanwhile, it was Ryan, your mom and I have stuff to do, you milk, hog chores, and bale hay. One of my favorite memories of her was baling hay. Dad told her that she could probably help out some. She was probably 17? Anyway, this was right before we got a kicker baler. She gets on the wagon to stack with me. I grab the first bale, then another, I tell her to grab one. She proceeds to grab a bale and put it right in front of the chute and sits down on it, right in the way. I tell her to move. She says something about Dad said I have to come out here, so I am. I kicked her square in the back off the wagon. She ran all the way to the house, and never had to do that again, which is what she wanted. Friday night she starts in about how religion is stupid, and how we have morals because we are part of a herd, not because we have a conscious in our soul. So, I want to just tear into her arguments, but I don't want a scene in front of my parents or my kids. It makes me not want to go to my parents. They are 70 now, and they love my kids, and help out with watching them when my wife and I are busy. I'm not that worried about the estate, cause I think that my parents think I will be able to take care of myself, and she could use it. I just don't like being around her. When she moved back 5 years ago, I thought it would get better, but she's harder to deal with even more now. So how do you deal with this? Sorry for the rant, I'm just irritated I guess. | |
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Sibling you just can't get along with?
