Clay SEIA - 5/21/2018 21:18
Mrs B - 5/21/2018 19:31
tommyw-5088 - 5/21/2018 18:21 It’s the best money I ever spent, lol Oddly what took me 25 years to build , took her 2 to spend. X is on second husband and has basically bankrupted him , already . Lots of difference in wives , got the best now any lucky fellow could have . Very seldom have a cross word . We both had been married before and signed a prenup agreement. She has more land than I do . I’d caution anyone , who farms be sure you marry someone that understands What’s involved in that life .
That's probably pretty good advice, tommy. Especially for the second go-round. Sometimes that first one is naive enough and starry-eyed enough that it works out that she doesn't "get" what all's involved in a farming operation until she's lived thru it a few years and by then she's indoctrinated into it so she thinks it's normal. And then there are the others who hear all their townie friends talk about supper at a reasonable hour every night.......in the house and not on a pickup tailgate, and vacations, and weekend jaunts to ballgames or just to get away. It ain't easy. Ya both gotta want to make it work.
Lots more fun when you have one that supports it instead of fighting it, that's for sure.... Got lucky enough to find one that grew up with farming and works two jobs already, so is just happy to have whatever time we make work. And last week after a ten hour shift she came out to ride on my last field of beans, pitched a dozen bags up to the center fill tanks, and stuck it out till 1 AM when I finally got the planter to the barn. Then we sat on the pickup tailgate drinking cocktails and watching a thunderstorm for another hour.
But on the flip side, she's never had anybody do a damn thing to help her. She was incredulous the first time I did something so simple as have the dishwasher ran and a load of clothes clean in the laundry when she got home.
Divorce and the farm.
