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southern MN | You got yourself attached to a property you don't own.
The couple that does own it is going through D, which often has hateful, spiteful feelings if not out in the open, bubbling underneath. Those bad feelings are always looking for a path to follow, and the spot you are in (enjoying their property for free, trying to be buddies with one or both of them, wanting to represent the property, wanting to buy the property....) will become a focal point for one of then to let some bad feelings out and headed your way......
This property represents an investment, a momento of what they had, and a reminder of the hate and spite now. All wrapped onto one.
You need to get out of this situation. No good at all will come to you at this point.
Since you are interested in the property, you can't possibly honestly represent finding a buyer. Stop with that. Make your offer, and don't be part of the process beyond that. You will become the enemy if you try doing both.
Being the caretaker for free puts you also on a bad spot, you empower this all to drag on for both of them. You -will- end up being the rope in a tug of war at some point, as frustration builds between them and the overvalued property does not sell. It will be your fault for not mowing it right, or some other silliness.....
So politely but firmly say you won't be taking care of things or responsible for nothing there at the end of the month, they need to find other arrangements, and keep off the property. You are the rope if a tug of war breaks out, if they battle over assets, you are opening yourself up for being responsible if things go wrong at that property and the 2 people get angry at each other about it - you -will- be the focal point then.
Tell both of them the exact same messages, dont be short with one, and spend a 2 hour visit with the other. Don't tell one, and expect that one to pass the message on to the other. You are now dealing with 2 seperate people, no longer the situation you used to have. Both are likely suspicious of anything going on involving money, and it sounds like this was a sizable investment asset for them to bicker on. It is very very very easy for you to be mistrusted by one or both from just one misplaced word in a simple conversation here......
What you had was a pretty good deal, but that deal is done. Things have changed in a big way, and you need to move on.
You can't be buddies with both of them any more either, you will be perceived to be taking one side or the other, and one will be suspicious of you, the other will dislike you. Just how it is.
Get yourself out of this situation. Before the situation envelopes you in a bad way.
You traded your time and talent for some hunting rights, and that was the deal. You can't get anything more out of that, it is the past. Stuff happens, people move on.
Time to move on.
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