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Panhandle of Ne. | To answer a couple of your questions, I'll give you examples of what I have done. My wife, brother and I have a living will and advanced directive in place. This, simply put, lets the people that will be in charge of you and your affairs know what your thoughts and feelings are. You can state in this legal document that you don't want to be kept alive by artificial means or a DNR [do not resusitate] statement. You can also choose your paulbearers or a place where you can have your ashes spread should you decide to be cremated for instance. There are many many things you can state in this document that will take a load off of your loved ones when that time comes. Everyone should have a document such as this in place along with a will long before it will be needed. My hope and prayers is that you get these documents in place and nobody has to refer to them for many years to come.
I personally prefer cremation. I believe conventional funerals have gotten way out of hand as far as expense goes. If you are a Christian, there was a good discussion on this forum back in the winter about cremation and the church. Seems there was no conclusive thoughts or scriptures for or against.
Lot of good responses and advice as to what should be done financially. I would just encourage you to make it known, either through the document I spoke of earlier or an actual will, who specifically you want to have what as far as your possessions go. I'm sitting on the sidelines currently watching the dispersion of an estate. We gave the gentleman we bought our land from 15 years ago have a lifetime estate on the house that was on the place, he died during the winter and was a lifelong bachelor and now all the nieces/nephews/aunts/uncles etc. are coming in and saying that they are "sure" that the deceased would want them to have this that or the other.
I, to, would also encourage you to enjoy your family, take a trip, do some things you have only thought about doing all the while doing your dead level best to beat this disease.
God bless and good luck. Keep us informed if you wish to do so. Lots of good folks on these forums.
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im 56 and have stage four lung cancer...need advice
