AgAcGuy - 12/2/2025 21:40

I’ve read his post twice now and I cannot connect the dots that you claim to be so offended by in your response.
If you need a pat on the back or to hear job well done then I guess your post got what you needed.

Could he have done a better job in his post using proper punctuation? Sure.

I read his post as a genuine question on others thoughts that due to a lack of a father in these kids lives and the off the rails whack job of a mother would these kids turn out to be degenerates. I don’t think he was stereotyping single parent homes as much as he was singling out single parent homes with a whack job. His questions should have been something along the lines of “do you think a father figure in these children’s lives could alter the trajectory that their lives are currently on?” Or something like that.

I’ve known MANY people that came from single family homes that share a success story similar to yours. I don’t know whats eating at you in your world currently but I pray for you. You’ve attacked me on here before about my electric cooperative for things you had no clue about.

My general feeling is that you need to hear good job and well done from other men. Your love language is likely words of affirmation and not having a dad to put his hand on your shoulder and tell you how proud of you he is a void in your life. I’ll open up a little about my hurt too just to keep it real. My father owned an HVAC company for 39 years of my life. I didn’t take it over, I moved 390 miles north, went to work for local hvac company during the day, worked at UPS at night and took online classes at community college until I got into A&M. Took me ten years to graduate college and then I spent four years in the ag world. In 2017 I wound up getting laid off and decided to go out on my own in HVAC with $1,200 to my name and two kids under 3. Worked my butt off and now 9 years later have a company with six full time employees all making living wages and I’m doing okay. Up until my dad’s cancer diagnosis in January he’s never once told me he was proud of my accomplishments. He would always downgrade what I had achieved and always try to draw comparisons to his company that was never more than him and a helper in a truck. He provided a good living for our family growing up but he was scared of growth. I’m 41 years old and it bothered me immensely to never hear the words “I’m proud of you” from my dad. This past spring I took him to one of my job sites at a school where we had installed about 15 AC systems to the tune of about $600,000.00 and walked that site with me seeing all we had done and he looked over at me and said “ what are you gonna clear on this job, $50k?, I’m proud of you son”. I couldn’t believe what I had heard and I also couldn’t believe he was asking me what I might make on a job that big so I smiled and said “thanks for all you taught me”. My father is not winning his cancer battle as it’s now spread to his lungs but he has filled the void in my heart that angered at me for years wondering if I’d made the old man proud. I’m sorry that you never got to know your dad but I do believe he is watching over you and your family and if he could I bet he would say those words to you as well.