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North central TX | Tommy, everyone handles that differently. The little ones are absolutely the hardest. Your advice is absolutely right. It's not HIS emergency. He's just there to do all he can to help. I'm glad he wasnt on that call, but if he does the job very long, he will be eventually. If it helps him to talk about it, then he NEEDS to talk about it with someone. If he doesn't want to, don't make him unless you see something change for the worse in his personality.
I'm pretty good at compartmentalizing and boxing stuff away. So I don't talk about the bad calls after a few days once we've done the "post incident analysis" stuff of what went well, and what could we have done different. I have memories of the calls and the things I've seen that creep back in fairly regularly. But I'm able to stay at ease because #1- I always keep what you said at the front of my mind, it wasn't my doing that caused the problem. And #2- I KNOW I did everything within the very best of my ability to change the outcome for the better. I win a lot, but I can't win them all. And that's ok. If he can get his head wrapped around that concept I think he'll have a long and mentally healthy career.
It's natural to feel sorrow and even guilt. But processing it and managing it is the key.
Take care, and tell him to keep up the hard work! | |
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My son’s class … to my haters no need to reply .
