I get the writing your obit if my mom died tomorrow I’d be reaching to come up with more than date of birth, date of death, survived by, and who proceeded her in death.   She’s a very secretive non committing person.   Really doesn’t have hobbies.   The buying your headstone and pre planning every detail to me is a bad idea I had an idea how a person’s final services should be went to a landlord’s celebration of life and totally changed my view.  Leaving a manilla envelope in a precommunicated location with your wishes  is a logical choice.