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NorthWest Indiana | Farmer82, you are making the hardest decisions of your life. Why? Because it involves the ending of another's life. Should we? Could we? What if? A hundred thousand questions of this type, but what is right or wrong?? Who knows. Look at all of the "experts" deal with this covid19 thing, they don't know. My mom and dad built their retirement home on our farm so they could stay in their home as long as possible. Dad died last November. We (my wife and I) ate supper with them at their house for the last couple years as dad was in a power scooter and wasn't easy to get him in our house. He wanted no extreme measures done. We posted that on their refrigerator, bedroom door and in their bathroom in the event emt's came it was visible. An old teaching friend who moonlighted as an emt, talked of cracking old brittle bones on old folks trying to resuscitate them because of lack of knowledge of the victim's preference.
Who knows, he was fine on Thursday, their pastor visited and she had been a nurse in another career so she always checked dad's vitals and his lungs sounded clear. Friday was raining and he didn't feel good but didn't want mom driving in the rain (they were at their Florida house) so they went Friday afternoon. Saturday evening he passed. He was made comfortable but no extreme measures. He said many times over supper, have no regrets, meaning he would have no regrets for us not doing extreme measures and for us to never second guess ourselves not doing extreme measures.
Who knows? No one. Your friend chose you when he was of sound mind. He saw something in you or about you or the way you conduct yourself that he admired. This wasn't thrown in your lap by an uncaring relative. This guy picked you. Do what you think is best. Do what you would want others to do for you. What else could anyone else expect of you. Your caring and concern show thru your posts. It is a most difficult job. Don't let it eat you up. Do your best, ask your Lord for guidance and strength. Be true to your friend and yourself. Praying for you. | |
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