Posted 1/27/2019 19:19 (#7277303 - in reply to #7276541) Subject: RE: Neighbors.
It has been eleven years now since our loss. For your friends, the hurt never goes away, just changes. For the first few months there were several things folks quietly did for us now and then without mentioning a word. Food left here, a card left in my pickup on main street, etc... Or, just popping over and asking how we were. If you do this, make sure you listen to them talk., not talk yourself. Most of us are uncomfortable around folks we love but cannot do anything for, so we start rattling on and on. After a while that type of habit became irritating. If they say they are busy, don't stop visiting, just try later on.
Most of all, look out for them. My wife and I became absent minded. Seems many friends and neighbors kept a watch on us and would just show up when I needed to repair equipment or whatever. Every little thing that goes wrong is multiplied for the person that has experienced recent loss.