Amen to that. Youngest of 4, only 2 of us left and I'm only 47 so that don't look real promising for the long-haul huh? Haven't spoken to the remaining brother since our sister passed early last summer, and I could tell that was only out of necessity. He called complaining about something or another with the cemetery, he and the BIL had been discussing, and had reached out to the funeral home that handles most grave digging and stone-setting around these parts, and gotten some conflicting info because they both talked to two different people, neither of which have any actual knowledge of our family plots and how they're laid out. They sit 4 hours away and I live 3/4 of a mile from the cemetery, and yet they got a whole bunch of folks in a tizz, all calling me before I knew what was going on. Next conversation I said something to the effect of if someone would just put me in the loop, every bit of this could have been taken care of without ever bothering anyone, since they're all calling me anyway! That was the last conversation we've had. Had been a year or two before that as well. My wife always said it ruined my mood for days every time I talked to him, because I always hoped it would be the start of maybe things heading back in the right direction. Eventually I finally learned that my mental health is better off if I write that off and put it away. I think we're both okay if we don't cross paths again. I have a lot of people I'm not related to that think a heck a lot more of me than him, and vice-versa. Heck, I feel closer to one or two of you on here over the last 15 years or so than that and am a heck of a lot more likely to come to all of you on here asking for thoughts and prayers for a serious situation before I'd look there. Being blood to someone doesn't obligate you to someone, heck we're all blood relatives when it boils down to it. You still have to earn your standing in another person's life.